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Friday, August 7, 2009

The Games People Play

Another advantage of marriage over fifty is the fact that you no longer play games. Being older and wiser, you realize that you just don't want to waste your time on those petty male/female games most of us used to play. At least that is what Tom and I have experienced.

Life is much more fun when you just relax and do what feels right and comes naturally, instead of doing what you think others expect, or what you were taught is appropriate behavior. As younger people, we also often try to imitate what we perceive as our "roles," rather than just being ourselves. As we age, I think we come to understand that these are all just useless games that we don't want to play.

Tom and I feel we have more of a "take me as I am" relationship. We are better at accepting each other and have learned how to compromise to make each day as happy as possible for both of us. And that is so much easier than playing games!



Diana Black said...

Yeah, Melinda, I hear ya!

When we're younger, we're always kind of looking over our shoulders to see what other couples are doing. And often just not honest with each other. Oh, and wanting the other one to read our mind.

Of course, nowadays that might be nice. Then we might remember things better!


WOOFers said...

Oh Diana--that is so funny! Tom and I often say that maybe by combining our two brains that don't seem to remember things that well anymore, we have one good brain with full memory function!


Eileen Williams said...

Boy, are you barking up the right tree with that one! I've tired of trying to change my husband--never worked, never will work. Ain't getting older just grand?!

Mary Cunningham said...

So true, MD. Isn't being a WOOFer freeing? It's so much easier just being ourselves.



WOOFers said...

Eileen and Mary--Oh yes! Getting older and being a WOOFer is pretty darn terrific!!


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