Patricia Harman has spent over thirty years caring for women as a midwife, first as a lay-midwife, delivering babies in cabins and on communal farms in West Virginia, and later as a nurse-midwife in teaching hospitals and in a community hospital birthing center.
Praise for Blue Cotton Gown:
“A flower child who found her calling after coaching a friend through a home birth, nurse-midwife Harman works with her ob-gyn husband at a West Virginia clinic. In her sweetly perceptive memoir, she reveals how her exam room becomes a confessional. Coaxing women in thin blue gowns to share secrets—about abusive boyfriends, OxyContin habits, unplanned pregnancies—she reminds them that they’re not alone.” —People Magazine
WOOF: Thank you, so much, for visiting WOOF, Patricia! The Blue Cotton Gown: A Midwife's Memoir is a book about women in trouble. Why did you write this book?
PH: I’ve always been so impressed with the courage of the ordinary women. Patients of all walks of life come into my exam room and I ask them, “So how are you doing? How’s your stress level? At first they may make a joke about it.”
“Oh, terrible, but isn’t everyone’s….”
But then I draw my rolling exam stool forward and they tell me their stories. I leave the exam room shaken and in awe by the very difficult situations women are in and the courage they have to have just to march on. Since I had insomnia, I began to get up at night and write down their stories. I felt there was something majestic about them. These women, with all their imperfections, are like all of us, and they’re my heroes.”
WOOF: Who is The Blue Cotton Gown written for?
PH: I wrote the Blue Cotton Gown primarily for other women, but the men that have picked it up have been fascinated. That’s partly because one of the male protagonist is my husband, a mild mannered physician, who like the women in the stories has his own troubles. I think, in addition to women of all ages, the book is interesting to health care providers because it illuminates some of the difficulties of trying to maintain a private practice in the midst of a health care system in crisis.
WOOF: Did it concern you that you might say more about your patients than they would want you to?
PH: I went to great lengths to disguise each patient. If you were an Asian Teacher I’d make you a Hispanic Bank President. I also let each major patient read her own chapters to see if she wanted them to be in the book, or if she wanted me to change anything. Not one said no. One women spoke for them all when she told me, ‘If my story can help another woman not feel alone, I want it to be in there.’
WOOF: Of all the many problems that women have, and that you address in the book, what strikes you as the most difficult?
PH: Women carry great burdens, often in silence. When I ask patients about their stress level, most of the time it is a 9 or 10. This is not good for their health. I am also concerned that women have so little support and feel alone. All this affects their health. Women take care of everyone else and themselves last.
WOOF: How did you decide which women to write about?
I chose women who came back to the office several times over the course of a year and women of all ages so there’s someone in The Blue Cotton Gown that every reader can relate to.
WOOF: The book has a lot of information about you and your family. How did your husband, Dr. Harman, and your sons feel about this?
PH: My husband Tom is my partner and back-up physician in our practice. I didn’t start out to write about myself, or the practice, the health care system or our marriage and family, but it turned out to be an integral part of the Blue Cotton Gown. Our story is interwoven with the stories of patients. Tom and my boys were incredibly generous in letting me write about our difficulties and our love. I guess we all believe that honesty is the best policy and that people can learn from other’s experiences.
WOOF: What’s been the most rewarding thing about writing and getting The Blue Cotton Gown published?
PH: The letters from readers. The Blue Cotton Gown celebrates the courage of the ordinary women and all professionals who struggles to survive with their souls intact. I get emails every day from readers who are touched by the book. It makes a difference to their lives.
I'm sure WOOFers everywhere will be inspired by Patricia Harmon and Blue Cotton Gown!
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